Wednesday, February 15, 2012

Should My Vote Be American or Christian?

I had a discussion, or two, with the young adult minister at my church several months ago regarding voting in America. It began with a discussion of the dynamics behind how the candidates for the last election were recognized and why we thought it was interesting that most of the Presidential candidates were not a part of the major debates. Then eventually my minister discussed that the 2009 election had been one of the first elections in which he willfully researched and weighed all of his options before casting his vote for President. I discussed that it had been the first time I had done any research of the politicians’ platforms (although I had definitely not researched all of them). During the conversation, my minister discussed that he had based his vote wholly on his Christian beliefs. Call me crazy, but that may have been the first time that option had popped into my head.

Please, let me explain…
Throughout college, I have learned a multitude of things and had begun to classify myself as many things in regards to my moral and societal beliefs. I am a feminist, and then when I learned more, I preferred the term Womanist to describe what I am. I am an avid advocate for victims of Intimate Partner Violence and Domestic Violence. I advocate for mentoring and helping at-risk youth. All of these things and many more.

The thing is…

My Christian beliefs rarely intersected with the above mentioned although Christian is something I have ALWAYS identified myself as.
So when my minister brought to my attention that Christianity and voting in America could and should actually not only intersect, but intertwine and become one… my mind felt a little un-easy. I mean if you really think about voting based solely on Christianity… I’m not sure WHO I would vote for or WHY I would even want to live in America (I laugh).
Truthfully, though, in this journey that I have decided to go on this past year, I have still managed to maintain certain compartments in my mind and in my beliefs. I had one that focused on Benita: the Black College Educated Woman living in America. Then I had Benita: the Christian. As the “Christian compartment grows I have realized how much of the other part will have to shift if not decreased exponentially. I first realized this a few years ago when I realized what marriage truly is and how a marriage was created to function. When I started thinking about egalitarian marriages and their propensity to fail and how marriages almost support some of the most sexist notions, we see today, a big shift occurred. I realized that being submissive does not mean subordinate and/or having less power. I learned some other things regarding this, but I won’t go into that on this blog. Interestingly enough I didn’t come to this conclusion in church, but rather a summer that I took Women’s Studies and Diverse Families and Children class.
Even with that realization, as a stubborn young woman I think I mentally and spiritually refused to acknowledge that there are several other ideologies that will need to change as a Christian. Here is where I could discuss gay rights, women’s rights, and some other stuff, but again, this particular blog is not about that. The fact remains that at that moment when my minister said those words I was forced to think about, if only for a second, the possibility that many of the things that I value and/or believe are based on ideals that were developed without concern or thought towards what God wants.
Now I sit here wondering… Should my vote, when I cast it, be American or Christian? Should our votes, my fellow American Christians, be based solely on the Constitution (which we know has various Christian foundations) or based solely on God’s will for us as a people, as His children.

*Enter the uneasiness…*

When I pose that question, I’m literally having an inward battle. One side is saying, that in the context of things such as LGBTQ rights “It is unjust to say that they should not have equality".
Then the other side pops in and says’ something like… “But it’s not about them, it’s about HIM.”
Then the one side says, “But the Constitution doesn’t make that distinction and it is unjust to tell someone that they should believe the same religion as I do”.
Then there goes that other side saying, “It is unrighteous to support the actions that God hates.”

*See my dilemma??*

At this point, I have just decided that I need to begin praying for discernment and continuous guidance because I want my actions to please God above all, not man.

I think in a future post when things are made clearer, or even while I’m still contemplating, I will write about some of the above-mentioned beliefs in more detail. Until then I must pose the title question to you all…

Do you think that your religious beliefs should be the sole criteria for who you vote for politically?
Or
How much of your religious/spiritual beliefs should be reflected in your political views?


Tuesday, February 14, 2012

A Natural Girl's Vent

I’m beginning to really… dislike when people say things like, “Going natural isn’t for everyone”. When really they just mean “everyone can’t pull off short hair or an afro”… as if that’s the only style choice we’re going for once we BC.
Like a temporary TWA is the goal during the transition (not knocking those who rock the short cuts).
Some of these women are out here rocking ragged relaxed hair that never makes it past the nap of their necks. But those of us who choose to go natural have to hear people comment on our short (& hopefully healthy) curly hair, simply because it’s curly AND short… For now.
I think that a lot of women who BC’d or transitioned can say that they weren’t necessarily happy with the length of their hair. The one thing you realize, however, is that the journey is only temporary & that means the length will grow out (if you take care of your hair). You learn to accept that the current situation may not be preferable, especially of you DO want longer hair, but the end makes it worth it. I guess people just don’t get that part yet?? I mean the reality is… If you don’t want to lose length… Transition. I just got annoyed with transitioning. Speaking of which… I was gonna BC this month (to retain my length), but clearly that didn’t work out.
Anywho… Comments like that just perturb me a little…


 [just a little something previously posted on my Tumblr]